One tip that may be helpful...
Sometimes you can think of your components in terms of “groups”. What I mean is, take the fleur and bow tie, for example...
Turn off everything except those components, then set your Merge styles for the fleur and bow tie so those two components look correct. Now, Group those components.
Once that’s done, you can set the appropriate Merge style for the Group itself, while not disturbing the Merge relationship between the fleur and bow tie contained within the Group. This helps to give you control over how the Group relates to the rest of your components when you turn them back on. You may or may not need to move the Group to a higher or lower order/position in the list to have it Merge correctly with the other components.
-ShopBot Buddy PRSAlpha CNC